Not everyone has the same experience when using divorce mediation during their divorce process. Of course, part of the reason for that is that each person has a unique set of circumstances, and, personalities present in their divorce.
However, there are certain “rules” that apply across the board when it comes to how successful your mediation is going to be. These are:
· How committed you are to a peaceful resolution
· How committed your divorce attorney is to a peaceful resolution
· How willing you are to forgive your spouse, and yourself
· How willing you are to take full responsibility for your life and choices
Mediation Can Be Successful
People who go into a mediation letting their lawyers do all the talking, needing to get even, needing to win, and delegating the decision-making to their divorce attorneys, will not experience all that mediation has to offer.
These folks will use the mediation process the same way as the litigation process, then complain that it doesn’t work! But Divorce Mediation does work. As they say, “It works if you work it.”
Divorce Mediation can lead to a peaceful resolution of your breakup and an uncontested divorce settlement, which greatly minimizes the negative effects of divorce on children.
It can move you and your spouse through the cause of divorce, and beyond, to an effective co–parenting relationship. It can help you successfully settle all issues regarding divorce child custody.
And, your mediation can save you thousands of dollars in the process! Can you think of anything else you’d like to spend that money on? Well, go ahead, think about all that it can buy – and get committed to making the most of your Divorce Mediation.
Whatever your causes of divorce, from infidelity, to a communication breakdown, to a general growing apart, Divorce Mediation can be successful in resolving your disputed issues with your ex.
There are some cases of physical abuse where divorce mediation is not recommended, however, with the right mediator and a safe environment, such as holding the mediation at the Courthouse, even these cases sometimes may be appropriately mediated. Ask your attorney for specific advice before proceeding to a mediation where physical abuse has been an issue.
The divorce mediation process, in addition to helping you to settle the issues in your case, such as divorce child custody, can also set the tone and the framework for you and your ex to have improved and more effective communication in the future. This is especially important in cases where you will have to co-parent with them, and continue engage in dispute resolution, as issues arise.
Remember, even though each couple has different causes of divorce, be sure to consider utilizing divorce mediation if you are interested in a divorce settlement, and an uncontested divorce.
