It is rarely an intention to plan being a single mom. Becoming pregnant and choosing to raise a child is life altering. There is no specific guide book to follow. Each and every parent is unique, as is each and every child. As we are all individual, so is the purpose of every life. At birth the slate is clean and the mere taking of a breath is a life experience. The parenting responsibility begins and often never ends from that day forward.
Single mom problems
Single parenting can be daunting, and yet for many it is actually easier than duo parenting with conflicting perspectives. Any parenting is an accumulation of all the life experiences, learned beliefs and advice received from varying sources. Is there a right or wrong way to parent? Everyone would have a different answer to that question I am sure. Staying within the laws, protecting your children from harm, providing nutrition and the elemental care are the bare necessities. It is the emotional care that concerns me, as a life coach, the most.
If, as a parent you don’t “feel” happy, living with purpose, confident, loved, accepted for who you are as you are, then how can you provide that emotional security for your child? Life presents challenges every day. It is how we choose to accept and take action on them that determines how we feel. Every decision we make has consequences. How we handle the consequences are our choice as well.
Often patterns of behavior (habits) seem to control our actions, but does this need to be the truth? No. Your truth, your reality, how you live as a single parent is your choice, despite extenuating circumstances that you may believe control your actions. Change how you view situations, what you believe will happen and you WILL change the outcome. Maybe not immediately, but with consistent “better” thoughts, taking defined and deliberate action to achieve what you desire, the results will improve.
If you are hesitating, second guessing how you are as a single mom, or simply needing support and someone to lean on then get professional help. Don’t lean on your children. Friends and family can be biased and often not 100% supportive of your specific feelings. Invest in your emotional health. Take positive action to live with every day happiness, true health and an abundance of all you desire. Commit to your well-being. Living as a single parent can be the most rewarding experience you will ever have. Your children want to feel happy, healthy and have the freedom to make wise conscious choices of their own.
