Being a single parent was never my intention. Feeling alone while being responsible for the lives of your children is never how anyone wants to feel. Being a single parent blamed for the divorce and losing friends who you thought were friends is never intentional. And yet, over 50% of marriages end in divorce
Personally it wasn’t just the lack of money, loss of my job, and cramped living quarters, but the rejection from family and friends that hurt the most. Because everyone perceived our family as happy it came as a shock to most. And because so many people are shallow they feel the need to blame someone or something for what happens.
When divorce happens you often suddenly feel along. Being a single parent going through divorce you’re forced to deal with the effects of divorce on your children as well as yourself.
Single mom life
My divorce was supposed to be amicable, and it was at first. How many times have we heard that? Then greed, anger, other people’s opinions, fear and lawyers turned it into a financial and emotional battle.
Often friends don’t know how to re-act. Those you think you can count on don’t want anything to do with you. Criticism, blame and even jealousy gets thrown around. Until the dust settles you can feel really alone and confused.
Just when you most need someone to share a cup of coffee, be normal and enjoy conversation you discover you’re not accepted like you were before divorce. There are some friends who just love drama and think they are helping by criticizing every detail they can come up with about your ex. Not constructive for divorce healing! Fortunately there are the true friends who do hang in no matter what and love you for who you are but you don’t want to burden them with your problems either. As a result you can isolate yourself after divorce until you sort it all out.
